Five Co-Parenting Interventions from "Divorce Poison: Protecting the Parent/Child Bond From a Vindictive Ex"|
by Dr. Richard A. Warshak
as reviewed by Shonnie Brown, MFT
The power of this book is that Dr. Warshak uses very tough real life scenarios to help readers understand parental alienation and the signs of it, telling how and why parents manipulate their children. He also spells out dozens of strategies for responding to bad-mouthing, lying and brainwashing while preserving your relationship with your child and not succumbing to the impulse to retaliate in kind. In the article, Shonnie outlines a few of Dr. Warshak's specific interventions. Read more...
How We Are Wired for Connection and What Gets in the Way
Shoshona Pascoe, MFT
I recently attended a conference with Dr. Sue Johnson on Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. This model of couples work gets to the heart of the distress many, many couples find themselves experiencing. Natural longings and needs for connection are covered over by secondary emotions; anger and blame are two common ones. In a society that values individuation and independence, the wired-in need for connection is often underestimated if not pathologized. In working with couples I see the more vulnerable core needs, and the way hurt and disappointment create walls of protection over them. How to uncover these more primary emotions is the task, but the protective covering that has been built over time has its own agenda. Read more...
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A poem by Rainer Maria Rilke
Gudrun Zomerland, MFT
Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart
And try to love the questions themselves
Do not now seek the answers which cannot be given you yet,
Because you would not be able to live them
And the point is to live everything
Live the questions now.
You must give birth to your images.
They are the future waiting to be born
Fear not the strangeness that you feel
The future must enter you long before it happens.
Rainer Maria Rilke, 1875-1926
Chinn Street Groups:
Separation/Divorce/Transition Group for Women: ongoing weekly support group for women in any stage of separation from a long term relationship. Facilitated by Shonnie
Brown, M.A., MFT
Co-Parent Empowerment Group: six week class focusing on shared parenting issues: managing and diffusing anger, de-escalation of conflict and effective communication skills. Facilitated by Shonnie
Brown, M.A., MFT
Ongoing Men's Support Group: open to men interested in working on recurrent relationship issues including anger, addiction, communication and parenting. Meets Tuesdays from 6-7:30 PM. Facilitated by Kevin Cooper, MFT
Recovery Support Group for Women: for women who are currently active members of a 12-Step fellowship and who want additional support in dealing with the many issues that can emerge when recovering from addictive patterns in life. Ongoing, Monday evenings 6-7:30PM. Facilitated by Gudrun Zomerland, MFT
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