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Co-Dependent Characteristics and Patterns

Gudrun Zomerland, MFT
Source: Co-Dependent Anonymous

  • I have difficulty identifying what I feel.
  • I have difficulty expressing my feelings.
  • I tend to minimize, alter or even deny how I feel.
  • I have difficulty speaking what's on my mind.
  • I keep things to myself.

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  • I have difficulty forming and/or maintaining healthy relationships.
  • I worry about how other people might respond to my feelings.
  • I worry about what other people think of me.
  • Other people's actions and attitudes often determine how I respond or act.
  • I assume responsibility for other people's feelings and/or behaviors.

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  • I tend to put other people's wants and needs before my own.
  • I am loyal and stay in relationships even when they are harmful.
  • My fear of other people's anger determines what I say or do.
  • I question or ignore my values in order to stay connected with another person.
  • I value other people's opinions more than my own.

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  • I have difficulty saying "no".
  • I am afraid of rejection.
  • I am afraid of getting hurt.
  • I am afraid I might hurt other people's feelings.
  • I have difficulty making decisions.

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  • I need to feel needed in order to be OK.
  • I don't think asking for help is OK.
  • I am hard on myself.
  • My self-esteem depends on outer circumstances or people.
  • I have higher expectations of myself than other people.

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  • I don't allow other people to make mistakes.
  • I usually know what other people should do to solve their problems.
  • I can't tolerate the sense of disappointing others.
  • I feel quite upset when I make a mistake.
  • I am perfectionistic.

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  • I have difficulty seeing goods things about myself.
  • I have difficulty accepting compliments.
  • I tend to judge everything I think, say or do harshly.
  • Nothing I do is ever good enough.
  • Loving myself would be selfish.
 
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